Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Our Engagement Story

Hello friends!  I am so excited to share our engagement story, but before we get started you might grab your favorite drink and find a cozy spot to read... I have a feeling this is going to be a long post (as I don't want to leave anything out). If you aren't interested in alllll the details, scroll down to September 8, 2018.

A common question I've received since announcing our engagement has been "did you know it was coming?"

Phillip and I began talking about being married long before we were engaged. We already knew where we wanted to be married, what our colors would be, what song we'd dance to and who we'd include in our wedding party. I gave Phillip several photos of the ring I wanted and even tagged him in a few Instagram posts by my favorite jeweler, always sure to include my ring size *hint hint* haha!

Needless to say, I was ready. I started getting really impatient last summer. I knew we wanted to have a fall wedding and I needed at least a year to plan.

In July, while we were in Dallas celebrating my birthday, Phillip let it slip that he had an appointment in Tulsa with the jeweler the following week. I was so excited!

As we discussed it further, we agreed it would be best to go to this appointment together. We were both conflicted in making this decision...we were worried about ruining the "surprise" element of the proposal. However, in the end we determined that because it is such a big investment (not to mention, the most important accessory I'll ever wear) we needed to be sure the ring we picked out was exactly what I wanted.

When we arrived at the store, it didn't take long for me to pick out the ring. I walked over to the case, went straight to the ring and said to Phillip, "this is it!"

This is a photo I took at the jewelry store the day we picked out my ring.

I knew I wanted a delicate halo setting with a cushion cut diamond.

We ordered the ring and were told it would be at least a month before it would be ready. I spent the entire month of August daydreaming about the proposal...wondering when or how Phillip would do it. I only had one request: it be a private moment between the two of us.

Fast forward to September, I knew the ring would be in Phillip's possession any day but I wasn't sure when he'd find the time to drive to Tulsa to pick it up. So when Phillip's cousin invited me on a shopping day the first weekend in September, I figured Phillip would use this opportunity to drive to Tulsa to pick up the ring...little did I know, he already had it.

September 8, 2018

I woke up early, I was meeting Phillip's stepmother and cousin at 9 a.m. for our shopping day in OKC. We were shopping for a homecoming dress, his cousin was the sophomore attendant in the homecoming court at her school.

Much to my surprise, it was a pure coincidence that they invited me to go shopping. Phillip had already been trying to figure out how to get me out of the house on this it really worked out nicely for him! There was only one problem, he needed me gone until 7 p.m. (sunset).

Once Phillip learned of my plans, he requested they entertain me until 7 p.m. This was no easy task, as I mentioned we already had plans to leave early that morning. We spent the morning shopping for formal gowns and much to our surprise, found "the" dress at the second store we visited! With the dress purchased (before lunch might I add!) they had to improvise on how to entertain me for the rest of the day.

We spent a few hours eating lunch, then went to the mall to pick out another dress for her to wear in the homecoming parade. By the time we left the mall I was exhausted.

With several hours until sunset, they took their time driving back home. We stopped at a children's clothing store to pick out a few outfits for Phillip's 3-month-old niece, went to Ulta and stopped at a gas station for something to drink. Originally, I wanted to go to HomeGoods to look at their fall decor. But after several hours of power-shopping, I was ready to go home. They tried to talk me into HomeGoods but I refused!

When I made it back to his parents house (they live in a small town 20 miles from us), I called Phillip to tell him about our day, "all I want to do is go home and put on my pj's -I'm so tired!" 

On my drive back to Ada (from his parent's house) I wondered if he made it to Tulsa to pick up the ring. I was a little disappointed, Phillip mentioned that he had lunch with his mother that day so I knew he probably didn't drive 6 hours to Tulsa and back...

When I pulled into to the driveway something caught my eye, I could see twinkling lights coming from the bushes in the back yard. My heart skipped a beat, this is it!

As I walked through the door to our home, I began to cry. Phillip placed candles all over the house. On the dining room table was a beautiful flower arrangement with a card -he wrote me the most romantic letter with the instructions to come outside.

Below is a video of what the house looked like:

Phillip transformed our backyard into a romantic oasis. I found him standing on the deck, surrounded by twinkling lights, candles and more flowers. It took my breath away.

Phillip arranged these flowers himself, the hydrangeas and roses have a special meaning between us. He was so thoughtful!

I met him on the deck where he took my hands, I was "ugly crying" at this point! He spoke about how he wanted to spend his life with me...both of us were very emotional.

Then he got down on one knee and asked the question I'd been waiting so long to hear. It was a beautiful moment, one I'll treasure forever.

After I said yes, Phillip played "our song," the one we'll dance to at our wedding. He pulled me in and we danced to the music, savoring every second.

Following the proposal we called our loved ones to share the good news. Once everyone had been notified, we ordered a pizza from our favorite restaurant. I finally put on my pajamas and we sat in the living room floor, surrounded by candlelight and the sound of old tunes. We dined on pizza and delicious wine, and spent hours talking...I wanted to hear all about the proposal and how it all came together.

Phillip purchased special wine to celebrate the engagement! It was exquisite!

(Phillip took a day off work earlier in the week to pick up the ring. He did have lunch with his mom, she was in town to help him get the house ready! I really enjoyed hearing the story from his perspective...maybe I'll ask him to write it so I can share it with you.)

It was an absolute fairy tale. I am still on cloud nine -I get to marry the man of my dreams!

Thank you all for the well-wishes and congratulations. We are so touched by the outpouring of love shown to us in the last month. We are truly blessed.


Tuesday, October 16, 2018

To New Chapters

Hello internet! It seems like my "blogging" days were a lifetime ago. So much has changed since my last post (dated two years ago, almost to the day!)

For a long time I considered shutting down the blog -I even told people that I was done writing. As I've gotten older, I've found myself less focused on capturing every moment ...and more focused on living *in* the moment. 

It seems like just yesterday I was writing my very first post. I was brand new to this town, living in a new apartment and about to begin the greatest chapter of my life thus far. It was the eve of my first day of work in a career that would bring me so many wonderful opportunities and milestones. 

I smile as I read the closing statement in my first post:

This is such an exciting time for me and I can’t think of a better way to preserve these memories!

I treasure this small slice of the very own time capsule, a written record of my twenties. I'm also very thankful for the growth and independence I gained during that time. I'm thankful for the time I had to experience the world on my own. I traveled, I discovered a passion for entertaining (and cooking!), I bought a house, I worked hard, both personally and professionally. I faced fears, overcame obstacles and found that I can do anything I put my mind to. I never settled for anything less than what I deserved. 

It was at the end of this time, the end of my twenties, that I met the most amazing man. The man I've prayed about and the man I patiently waited for.

I could very easily turn this into a love letter to Phillip...but I'll save that for another day. 

As I sit down to write this post, I can't help but smile. I am at another crossroads in life. Closing a chapter and beginning a new one. Although I don't intend on blogging regularly, I want to share these memories with our family and friends. It seems only fitting that I repeat the same line used in my first post (with one small addition):

This is such an exciting time for me and Phillip...and I cant think of a better way to preserve these memories.

Tomorrow I'll be sharing our engagement story, I hope to see you there!